It's been 4 years I have been the S word and life has never been this amazing. I'm serious, I'm not saying this because it's cool to say so but I have genuinely never lived UP my life as much as I did in these past years. I spent time with myself, on the things I wanted to do and I came out feeling stronger than ever. These past years have been a witness to the rising of a new Prerna and needless to say there are many people who helped me in this journey and I'm more than grateful for their sheer support.
I was in a relationship for 7 long years. It's like we grew up together, from silly college times to struggling first job days. But as they say, if it's meant to be it will be. And I don't say this with any resentment, but people who knew us personally knew this wouldn't and shouldn't have lasted. And I'm more than happy for the person I have become today, for the person he has turned out to be and for a whole lot of grief that we spared ourselves from. Phew!
Now coming to the topic of being single, was it easy breezy initially? Not really, it took me one solo trip to Goa to make me fall in love with myself again and from there on my story changed. I am proud of myself to finally have taken that one big step of doing a solo trip and in a very cliche Imtiaz Ali-esque movie plot, discovered myself walking down the winding paths of Goa. Today the Prerna I'm is a complete u-turn to what I used to be. But this doesn't mean that I gave up on the notion of love, the feeling you get when you start talking to someone new is priceless and I'm a hardcore YRF-ish kinda sucker for it. So even though I stepped out of a relationship I stepped into the world of online dating and it has been a whirlwind of a ride! But that part of my life demands another blog which hopefully in future I shall update.
Baga Beach, Goa
Life as a singleton is the most comfortable space I have been in. I believe there's nothing that I can't do alone. Now surely I have a lovely group of friends who are just like family, but when it comes to being single I can do solo trips, I can eat and drink alone at restaurants, I can go for movies alone and not feel any nervousness about it. Being a single person in any kind of environment boosts my confidence and that's a big lesson I have learned over the years. Sure, many judge me for the things I do alone but I have always believed that there's no need to wait for anyone to come and be that travel buddy or a food/drink companion. I LOVE my own company! My happiness is my responsibility and I make sure I keep myself happy. I read somewhere that if you don't treat yourself nicely you can't expect the world to treat you better and this is something I aspire to follow all my life.
I have nothing against relationships, in fact, my feelings about the topic of relationships have been at times conflicted. There are days I feel it might be a great idea to have someone who you can just call, talk silly to, fight for no reason and just vent your heart out. Then there are days when I meet someone new and I'm safeguarding my single status like my life depends on it! I keep saying I'm too self-reliant to accommodate anyone new in my life. But as A R Rahman once sang, "Dil hai toh dard hoga, dard hai toh dil bhi hoga" But until that dard comes knocking down, let's just party like Beyonce's all single ladies! #PutYourHandsUp
I was in a relationship for 7 long years. It's like we grew up together, from silly college times to struggling first job days. But as they say, if it's meant to be it will be. And I don't say this with any resentment, but people who knew us personally knew this wouldn't and shouldn't have lasted. And I'm more than happy for the person I have become today, for the person he has turned out to be and for a whole lot of grief that we spared ourselves from. Phew!
Now coming to the topic of being single, was it easy breezy initially? Not really, it took me one solo trip to Goa to make me fall in love with myself again and from there on my story changed. I am proud of myself to finally have taken that one big step of doing a solo trip and in a very cliche Imtiaz Ali-esque movie plot, discovered myself walking down the winding paths of Goa. Today the Prerna I'm is a complete u-turn to what I used to be. But this doesn't mean that I gave up on the notion of love, the feeling you get when you start talking to someone new is priceless and I'm a hardcore YRF-ish kinda sucker for it. So even though I stepped out of a relationship I stepped into the world of online dating and it has been a whirlwind of a ride! But that part of my life demands another blog which hopefully in future I shall update.
Life as a singleton is the most comfortable space I have been in. I believe there's nothing that I can't do alone. Now surely I have a lovely group of friends who are just like family, but when it comes to being single I can do solo trips, I can eat and drink alone at restaurants, I can go for movies alone and not feel any nervousness about it. Being a single person in any kind of environment boosts my confidence and that's a big lesson I have learned over the years. Sure, many judge me for the things I do alone but I have always believed that there's no need to wait for anyone to come and be that travel buddy or a food/drink companion. I LOVE my own company! My happiness is my responsibility and I make sure I keep myself happy. I read somewhere that if you don't treat yourself nicely you can't expect the world to treat you better and this is something I aspire to follow all my life.
I have nothing against relationships, in fact, my feelings about the topic of relationships have been at times conflicted. There are days I feel it might be a great idea to have someone who you can just call, talk silly to, fight for no reason and just vent your heart out. Then there are days when I meet someone new and I'm safeguarding my single status like my life depends on it! I keep saying I'm too self-reliant to accommodate anyone new in my life. But as A R Rahman once sang, "Dil hai toh dard hoga, dard hai toh dil bhi hoga" But until that dard comes knocking down, let's just party like Beyonce's all single ladies! #PutYourHandsUp
