Women's Day! Happy or not
Please note: This is no feminist post.
That said, you read all these stories of #MeToo and you know that there are some bad people out there who are taking women for granted and it boils my blood. But as I said, this is not a feminist post. I'll not preach about something I have no full knowledge about. I sometimes come across the shittiest of guys on these dating apps and I've been lucky enough to have tackled it carefully, but nothing discredits the truths of the women who go through a hell time and have to speak out publicly to prove their credibility. Kudos to them for gathering that courage, I'm in awe.
There are some women in my life I really admire and the most important is my Mum who fought against all odds to become the voice of reason in my family and her sacrifices made us into one big whole unit. Nothing I can do will ever be enough to thank her. Her sheer dedication to the family strives me into becoming a woman of my own and has helped form values I wouldn't have learned anywhere else. She's a staunch woman who made some radical choices in her life proving that nothing lies beyond a woman's power and in time I learned from her that what being strong means, even though it took me years to apply that to my own life.
For most of my life I've been the girl who lived in shadows. I could never find my voice to speak up openly, kept my opinions to myself feeling afraid it might strike a wrong chord somewhere. It took me years, and really, years to come up with a blog now that blogs are not even a "thing" anymore. But I have failed, gotten up and learned again in life to be the woman I'm today and I will, for once, throw modesty out of the window and say I'm proud of myself for the person I've become. In childhood a random child specialist told me I'm an underconfident person and that feedback I held so close to me that I never opened up completely. And each time I did, I embarrassed myself and you know how those are scarring AF. But now after many years, I thank my lucky stars to have made some friends in life who taught me that it's okay to let go, open up and soar high. They made me into a woman I would only imagine all through my childhood and teenage years. So I pay my gratefulness where it's due - THANKS GUYS!
Like a lot of people know, I've been through a transformation and that is a big highlight of my life. Not only physically, but even mentally it made me into a different person and I have first-hand experienced everyone's opinion change about me. Guys give me more attention, a lot of people now take me more seriously, as twisted as it may sound, but as a woman has that changed me? Not really. I still hold the same opinions I did before. I still don't give a sh*t if someone objectifies me because experience has taught me that some people are just trashy, they will never accept you for who you are. And does it disappoint me looking at people's shallow minds? Hell, it does! I only wish they would grow up and see women as equal if not above.
My parents are dejected with my choice of not getting married and it's taking them some time to get around to but it's a WIP. I don't choose to tie myself to a relationship I don't believe in and conform to the norms of society and be blissfully (not!) committed to a stranger. I have found my own path of being self-reliant and I think I'm great at it. I'm no expert in how to be an independent woman but I have done my bit to make sure, come what may, I love myself and work on myself to make sure I'm enough.
In the great words of one of my favourites Beyonce, "who run the world?" The answer couldn't be more obvious and perfect than - GIRLS!
