We are in 2020, I've been single for almost 6 years now and I've been surfing on various dating apps trying my luck at finding love. And with so much experience I can strongly say, we are still in complicated times. I've been meaning to write about my struggles since a long time but I never had enough words to explain how it feels.
It is only when I saw the trailer of Love Aaj Kal I realised how as a generation we are the crusaders of these unloved times. Even though I haven't watched the film yet but I know the gist of it and I'm sure in a very Imtiaz Ali way it explains the nuances of hookup culture and the harsh consequences of it. All reviews suggest that the movie is shallow, I'll reserve my comment on it until I watch it, but I believe the context is quite real and I've bore the brunt of it personally.
It is only when I saw the trailer of Love Aaj Kal I realised how as a generation we are the crusaders of these unloved times. Even though I haven't watched the film yet but I know the gist of it and I'm sure in a very Imtiaz Ali way it explains the nuances of hookup culture and the harsh consequences of it. All reviews suggest that the movie is shallow, I'll reserve my comment on it until I watch it, but I believe the context is quite real and I've bore the brunt of it personally.
I'm of the strong opinion that my generation is lost in the transition between real life relationships and virtual dating and the only saving grace is that we know how to handle lost love. But truly, have we forgotten how to love? Each guy I meet, online and offline, very categorically mentions that they're NOT looking for the real deal. Casual relationships have become the norm and currently this phase means doing everything together as a couple but without the tag of being called a 'couple'. You know what I mean? To me it only translates as being scared of commitment and hence staying away from real feelings and not get hurt.
I think love is a beautiful feeling, something we all should experience as many times as possible in life. I love being single but that doesn't mean I'm averse to the idea of love, there's nothing wrong in having someone in life with whom you can share some part of you in a stable manner. If we all only look for casual and commitment-free hookups, are we then completely giving up on the notion of love and companionship? And is that really worth it? Food for thought, hmm.
I've been in a long relationship, I've met a few guys with whom I've genuinely connected and could have tried taking things further but I can't force anyone to feel how I feel or change their stance on commitment. I'm criminally positive and a believer of old-school romance so I don't think I'll ever give up on the idea of love, but maybe just change my approach at how I find it.
#SheWillBeLoved sooner or later, but will be. :)
